Note: this is a growing field, with more resources being created all the time. This list is neither comprehensive, nor particularly in depth in various directions. I am simply attempting to provide a good starting point on various topics. As always suggestions are welcome. Continue reading
This list is for people who want to help abusers stop being abusive and engage with their actions, for people who want to know if they are abusers and what to do about it. If you are or have been abused please read this list. If you are worried that you will become an abuser because you have been abused please read this list.
If you are concerned you may be abusive, some hotlines provide resources to help identify abusive behaviors both online and via their hotlines:
For former abusers who are trying to improve:
Peer and community support can also be helpful.
This resource is to dispel the myth that victims become abusers, and provide resources for people who are afraid that they may one day become abusive because of they are victims of abuse. For more resources if believe you may be being abused check out this post. If you are worried that you might be an abuser or were an abuser in the past, check out this list.
If you feel bad or unsafe, trust your instinct (it is probably right) and listen to your instinct (take steps to protect yourself).
The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233. Anyone can call anytime.
The website also has many resources, for friends and family, LGBT, immigration, abusers, etc.
Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship in several different languages:
This is a list of coping strategies.
The first focus is preventative strategies for people who experience chronic ideation regarding self harm, but can be used for any sort of negative experience.
Below is a list of resources for mental health self care that covers a variety of topics that may negatively affect one’s well being, as well as resources and information about seeking emergency care. Each set of resources is labeled with an asterisk for improved navigation between sections.
Coping Strategies List
Planning Strategies List
List of resources
-Resources for friends and family
Please note I do not have any expertise and this is simply to help individuals who want to find resources on their own. Thank you, to the collective wisdom of the online groups of Sick and Disabled Queers and Sick and Disabled Queers of Color, and continue to be an inclusive and supportive community. Continue reading
How do we balance sharing with oversharing? Being constantly exposed to the prejudices we face as marginalized people can be exhausting. Providing visibility and humanizing victims is self-evidently significant, but the way we share this information matters.
Because there is so much denial of systemic abuse, sharing videos as well as the commentary helps show first-hand the degree of brutality going on, but sharing videos, such as those of police brutality, with your liberal communities is not inherently helpful. Continue reading
And it even has a decorated envelope with cute shiny stickers and blue and purple leopard print! I love cute mail! Continue reading